Well, one good night’s sleep later, I really regret totally losing my cool last night. See, this guy struck a very exposed nerve, and that part of my brain that says, “Dude, are you sure you want to do this?” was completely shorted out. But I think I’ll leave that post up, because it will serve as a reminder to me, (a scarlet letter, if you will) that it’s fine to love my family, and it’s fine to defend them when they are attacked . . . but sometimes it’s better to just go take a long walk and cool off. I think it’s fine to vent in one’s blog, but sometimes it’s just better to STFU and be a bigger person.
*Cue music for “The More You Know.”*
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Wil —
I completely understand your need to defend your family. That’s how I am with my friends. My friends are my life, and if someone f*cks w/ them, it’s not going to be a pretty picture…
You rule!
Nags
First post ?
Wil, I think it’s totally okay for you to loose you’re cool after such blatant lie.
True, the man deserves no attention, but hey, what can you do, you’re just human!
the past cannot be undone – so leave the post – but I am equally stunned – you keep your cool.. let me find the guy 😉
Rock on!
If it makes you feel better, I don’t think there are many of us that wouldn’t have reacted as you did. There’s just something about having our loved ones attacked that really sets us off. People can say whatever they want about me, but harm my family in any way and they’re history.
Glad you’re feeling better today though.
I don’t know, if the guy posted a completely made up story about me I’m not sure I wouldn’t have done the same thing. And I’m not even famous. I wonder what his motivation was in posting it.
Amen.
We still fall for that one though, don’t we?
And that’s one to grow on.
Wil-
Sometimes a night’s sleep helps. Unfortunately there are way too many people in this world who have the worst intentions.
There is something to be said for “taking a deep breath” . . . But sometimes you just gotta go ballistic. And when it comes to your family, well “Just do it”. If you watched the court house incident the other day, where the lawyer got shot, well where the hell was everybody. A guy just uses up a clip on another human being and walks away with the jerks behind the camera evidently thinking, “just keep rolling, just keep rolling”. Well, if that had been my associate, spouse, father, uncle, I would have gone after the guy in a heartbeat. Oh well, I guess I just vented on your dime.
You did nothing wrong!!!!!!!
Nice description, there: “that part of my brain…was completely shorted out.” That’s exactly what happens. Chin up, only Data has no temper.
*Grin* Welcome to the human race. I bet you felt better after venting; though the long walk is probably a better idea…phasers back to “Stun”. 🙂
Wil,
Totally understandable. I’m much like you in the fact that you can say what you want about me, but leave my family alone….
In some ways you are swinging to the other side and have not really hit a middle ground. The Net, and Cons, are both like small towns where gossip (true or not) is a form of currency. Sadly though its dam hard to refute the lies and make it stick. If you don’t refute this, you will set your self up as an easy target not what you want at all.
Defending ones name, reputation, and most importantly loved ones is not wrong. You did go to extremes, and that is understandable. With a cool head you can defend what you care about and try to set the record straight, without blowing up, and start the gossip that you’re a hot head.
Ashley
Of course you feel better today.
Need i remind you of the ancient Klingon proverb:”Revenge is a dish best served cold.”
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So, now that the flame of anger has subsided… how are we getting back at this guy? *evil grin*
yes, i’m just kidding!
Well Wil in this case I understand completely that you were “out of control” but you used some hard words, is the guy worth it? You’re an actor, you’re well-knows and sometimes then things happen which you should forget. Well, thats for all. Chris 😉
PS: You woke up and I nearly will fall asleep lol (I’m in Germany, you know). I’m tired, it was my first English test in class 11. Think it was good!
I think your anger is totally justified, but I understand why you would want to be the better person there.
I still think he’s a totally fucktard, though.
So you don’t sell your autograph or you do?
dont worry wil, sometimes these penniless cripples need to be told the world doesnt revolve around them. definitely leave the post.
That’s good advice to live by. If anything this dude is saying holds any level of truth, he’s a troubled and generally insecure individual.
I run into a lot of these types throughout my week. You say something to them and no matter how polite or professional you strive to be, they interpet it, through their own troubled perception, as your being rude and downright vulgar.
People like Bruce Cook, generally have very low self esteem, and as the of a disfunctional defense mechanism, they fabricate the details of their encounters.
Example: If I tell one of my disfunctional co-workers – Listen, thanks for your input, but at this time, I don’t require any further assistance. However, thanks for offering.”
She interpets it as, “Get away from me you fucking bitch. I don’t want any of your fucking input, and I hope you rot in hell for trying to give it to me. Why would I want any information from a hairy garden ape anyway?”
She shares a lot in common with Bruce. I bet if it came down to it, she’d even testify in court that she heard me tell her to rot in hell, because she whole-heartedly believes I would say that to her.
The problem lies not in their desire to gain attention, but in a medical disorder. It’s my guess that Bruce actually believes that this is what was said to him, regardless of whether Anne is even capable of that kind of rudeness. Which I understand she’s not.
Bruce is a sick individual. I have one word for him. Zoloft
Eric B
HA!
I knew just from the quote alone Wil never said it.Come on people,think about it,there was no use of the word’s
1] Dude
2] Cool/Uncool
3] Like
4] STFU,MF,A**
5] Political analogy
6] Reference to his [WIL] person
7] Overt Rock & Roll analogy
A more Wheatonesque quote would have read something like….
“Dude that’s so uncool,Like STFU and pay the
F-ing $10.Do I look like a sorry A** Rebublican to you.Stop starving my family,Im trying to make a living here
*Cue music for “I been caught stealing” by Janes Addiction*
Honestly? Sounds like you had a troll. Probably best to ignore the asshat unless you don’t mind troll stomping, and troll stomping is only fun if you’re emotionally detached from the situation.
About losing your cool? Last time I heard, you were mostly human, so that’s bound to happen sometime. Personally I thought your reponse was appropriate, however, I might have been tempted to add the phrases “penis wrinkle” and “fuckwit” to the rant.
What are you, a Vulcan? So you got upset. You struck back. It’s natural. Don’t beat yourself up.
wil, how do you find out about stuff on a
“noah hathaway” bb?
Just wanted to share that when you wrote *Cue music for “The More You Know.”*
…
It actually did. Cue in my head. And now it’s stuck in my brain on repeat as if I were a cd player. Damn Youse! *shakes fist*
It happens to everyone. What are our blogs for if not to share ALL our feelings. I’ve vented and raged. I’ve cried and whined. I try not to censor what I write because it’s not about the readers, it’s about me. Keep the post; it will likely be one of the most honest posts you ever write.
Do you remember if there was anyone there in a wheelchair? Was it completely made up or completely taken out of context? Just a little story I’d like to share about Mr. Wil I’m not goin give you my autograph without $10…. Ions ago, I won’t say how long but I sent him a letter to get his autograph and much to my embarrassment forgot to put on correct postage. Not only was my letter excepted but I received free photos with autographs.
Got trolled last week by a bozo who insulted me, my family and my entire readership. Deleted all his crap, ignored him and he’s gone.
Best thing to do.
However, given half the chance, I’d still rip off his head and piss down his neck.
Hmmm…..
I must be a little off from the way the rest of the people feel about this whole incident.
Personally, I’m a little envious of your wife, Wil.
I wish I had someone who felt so strongly about me that the very thought of someone maligning me brought out extraordinary feelings to protect and defend.
Your wife is one lucky lady, dude.
I still say it was romantic.
Even the most calm individuals blow up occasionally, especially when an attack is made on those they love. It’s only human. Don’t regret what you did. You did learn a lesson, so something good came of it. ^_^
I don’t know Will, if it were my wife, forget wahtever is said about me, then it would probably go something like those Vietnam era stills of B-52s carpet bombing the hell out of everything.
Of course, clearer heads prevail a day later, but then, hindsight has a way of pointing out the flaws in your actions, rather than the strengths.
Don’t worry too much about it-you did the right thing!
If you think about it Wil, it’s not as if this guy mentioned it to a friend, who mentioned it to another, and so on, and so on.. perhaps reaching a few hundred people. (which is still a lot, considering such a lie) I think you had and have every right to get as defensive and PO’d as you did. Think about how many people have access to that post! ..and THEN each of those people tell someone else, or post the link, and so on… much more damage, IMO. It’s libel.. almost as serious as if a tabloid had picked it up.
You’re within your rights. Don’t rationalize your behavior. oh.. and it IS romantic.:)
that stupid basterd who in the hell does think he is attacking and makeing things up about people he dont really know . i know no one likes to see a not letter or something that attacks u or ur family or them selfs u have a right to get very up set
Oh, that’s just priceless. It wasn’t enough just to say you and your wife were rude to him, he had to be in a WHEELCHAIR, too. Am I the only one reminded of the Timmy O’Toole scam? “I tried to enroll in your school, but your Principal Skinner turned me away because of my shabby clothes.”
Unfortunately, there are too many gullible twits in the world – esp. the Net – who would pick up this story and spread it around like the fetid fertilizer it is.
I think your post from yesterday is listed under ‘righteous indignation’ in the dictionary.
Will,
As a man despartely in love with his wife for going on 22 years, I fully understand your reaction. And fully suport it. People like this “Bruce” have some sort of screw loose, getting their jollies by making up things about people, JUST TO MAKE THEMSELVES LOOK LIKE THE HERO OR THE VICTIM.
Poop on “Bruce.”
If this individual isn’t really wheelchair bound, then shame, shame and double dog shame on him for exploiting the millions of handicapped people out there. People will be looking at anybody in a wheelchair at one of these events wondering if this guy is the rat-bastard, Bruce.
And, if he IS in a wheelchair, then triple dog shame on him for what he said. And did.
Hang in there.
Everyone gets angry. So few of us have the insight or courage to get over it.
So glad to hear that you are not a grudge-holder.
Ever play that improv game called “Should have said”? Let’s play “Should have written”.
Wil should have written:
“Quoted Parasite’s text pasted here”
None of the quoted text above ever happened. Please drop [Parasite’s name here] an e-mail to let him know what you think.
Thanks!
Remember Wil, you have fans and though we’re not as important as friends and family we will go to bat for you just the same. 🙂
One of the best things ever written on flames (IMHO, of course), was in a “For Dummies” book.
It basically said… write that flame. But don’t send it. Wait until the morning. If you still wanna send it then, go ahead. It’s probably that important to you. If you want to edit it, and then send it, go and do that. And if you decide not to flame at all, that’s fine too.
Some of the best advice ever written about the web… ever.
pity the fool who would lie like that…i would wager he is not known for the truth even among those he thinks of as friends…he probably thinks you are filthy rich!…why do people like that think celebrities should walk on water and kiss their ass?…my theory is that such feelings and behaviours could be a reflection of their own feelings of inadequacy.
Hey Wil, I note that this muppet’s email address incorporates the words ‘myspecialworld’ – I think this sums him up quite nicely! No more need be said as to where he is coming from. He sure is special.
HAHA you are a trip Wil! I thought it was so unfair to have that guy disrespect you and your wife like that but you can find ways to make yourself and other people laugh anyways. That last part with “cue the music” cracked me up! 🙂 thanks. Hope you feel better soon!
(this post probably sounds really dumb but I’m tired so I hope you can understand it!)
Wil,
Not that this will make you feel a whole lot better, but this is an internet hoax type of post; this post has been circulated across all type of celebrity message boards and things of that nature. It always changes a tiny bit, but the concept is the same: I showed up at a celebrity event in a wheelchair and said celebrity demanded money and then made some incredibly rude comment about my disability. This same post (with the same person’s name) showed up on the Tori Amos atforumz.com web site about Tori and her husband Mark.
I’m sorry it hurt your feelings. It’s a shame some people need to get attention by hurting others.
What you wrote was an honest gut reaction to a vicious rumor being publicized by an asshat. Perspective is everything; but the feelings you vented yesterday were totally understandable. Today
Methinks you just need to get real good and friendly with some EliTE HacKerZ that way, when stumps like that dipshit pull stupid stunts, you just send an email, and the EliTE will just shut him down…
But that’s just my opinion…
Wil just isn’t that kinda guy 😉
Uncle Willy – I totally stuck up for you on that yahooGroup. I think your reaction was fine, given what he actually posted.
One time I saw Wil at a Star Trek convention and I asked him to sign a “Stand By Me” picture.
He slapped me on the back of the head, hard, called me “Nancy” and told me to move on.
What a weenie.
Joking of course, but how funny that someone would write something like that guy!
Wil,
Two of the things I really like about you is your willingness to look at something a second time and your ability to be honest with and about yourself. Thanks for continuing to share who you are.
It takes a big man to stand up for his family. You did what any loving husband/father would have done. It shows that you are a human being and no one will fault you for that.
Besides, asshat chum dumpsters like Mr. Cook are just looking for a little attention, because they sure aren’t getting any from anyone who matters to them. Maybe somebody peed in his cornflakes this morning. Either way, that was a jerk thing to do and he needed to be put on notice before he talks shiat again.