Next week, I’m traveling to Minneapolis for the Twin Cities Comicon. I’ll be at the show Friday and Saturday, if you’re considering coming out to say hello.
In addition to the con, I was invited to speak to a group of students at a local high school about the intersection of kindness, empathy, and Star Trek. To prepare for it, I’ve been thinking about when I was briefly in public high school, before I left for Starfleet Academy, specifically the few assemblies and guest speakers I experienced. My clearest memory of every one of them is an adult showed up and talked at us in a way and about things that had little, if any, relevance to my lived experience and that of my peers. I remember swearing to myself that if I ever spoke to students when I was an adult, I wouldn’t talk at them, I would speak with them, and I would spend as much time as I could listening, instead of telling them how good they have it and that nothing they care about is important.
So that’s a great place for me to start, and a good north star to follow while I figure out how I want to do this. Today, I’ve been going through my archives1 for inspiration, and to review what has worked in the past.
There’s a lot of stuff in there that’s not great, some stuff that’s good enough to collect into a book or something, and a clear picture of a man who loves his family and his life, who is also doing his best to recover from a lot of deeply painful abuse and trauma.
I think I have identified and sketched out a framework I can use to keep my remarks brief and to the point, and while I work on nurturing those ideas into an actual speech, I wanted to share something I’m not sure I have published here, before.
These are my remarks to the Southern Kentucky Library Association, from a few years ago. This speech is about how a librarian stepped up when nobody else in my life would, and helped pour the foundation that I would build the best parts of my life upon, not because it was her job, but because she genuinely cared about kids.
It’s long, so I’ve put it behind a jump thingy. If you read it, I’d love to hear your thoughts.
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