all apologies

I can only sit up for about ten minutes at a time before I get dizzy, so I’m going to make this brief:
It has come to my attention that many people are upset with me, and some of them are even angry at me that I can’t make it out to New Orleans for Red Hat on June 1.
Anyone who knows me will not be surprised to hear that I’m not happy about missing the conference, and I’m pissed that I can’t finish the ACME show I’ve worked on for six months, but but there is just nothing I can do to make my body heal itself faster. Quite honestly, I’m a more than a little offended that anyone would expect me to perform under these circumstances, then have the nerve to get angry with me when I can’t . . . but I won’t go into a medication-fuled rant about that.
However, I really do feel terrible that I can’t make this conference. I feel like I’m letting a lot of people down, and I just want to take a moment and make a very public apology to the Red Hat summit organizers, Jon and Shari at igrep, and especially everyone who was looking forward to hearing me speak. I wish things were different, and I wish I could take two magic pills and make a full recovery in two days instead of two months . . . but it’s entirely out of my hands.

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  1. So some Red Hat nerds are upset you can’t make it… that’s frickin life, shit happens, they need to get over it. You don’t have to apologize for being sick.
    Sure, they have the right to be disappointed, but they don’t have the right to be mad at you for being sick, like you planned on getting frickin mono. How childish. Maybe their intellectual geek-dom is overpowering their humanity. Their thought processes are obviously scrambled. THEY NEED A FULL DIAGNOSTIC. Their positronic net needs reprogramming.
    YOU (WIL) NEED TO WORRY ABOUT MORE IMPORTANT THINGS… like getting better.
    I wish I could have seen the ACME show, and I know you wish you could have finished it out. But again, shit happens. You have NO control over it. People should understand that, if they don’t, oh well. Don’t apologize for being sick, it isn’t your fault.
    GET BETTER WIL, and put yourself first damnit.
    🙂 Kel

  2. UNBELIEVABLE.
    Acutally, it’s believable ’cause people have repeatedly shown how ingnorant and immature they/we really are.
    RIDICULOUS. That works. Flippin’ jerks. Next time they get sick, I hope their friends, family and boss all react as they have. A taste of their own “medicine”. Fuckers.
    —————
    Get well, Wil. Ahh, life… can’t have the good without the bad… and with all us good monkeys rootin’ for ya, you’re way ahead of the game.

  3. “Acutally”??? Is my keyboard dyslexic? Or are my fingers?
    Hey! I can trademark it as AcuTally, a new inventory counting device!!!

  4. Cant believe anyone would want you to perform when sick not to mention get pissed over it. Fecking ignorant idiots.
    Antibiotics wont work cos its a virus, nothing can be done but ride it out. Even though the sick feeling will go away in 2 months, sometimes the tiredness associated with Mono can last for almost a year.

  5. Damn, I cannot imagine someone being mad at you under these circumstances. What do they want you to do, work yourself to death? Screw that.
    I sure hope all of the downtime doesn’t hurt you in the pocketbook.
    Hang in there, dude.
    Lee

  6. Wow. That’s really lame. “You’re too sick to leave the house, so I’m going to be mad at you for not speaking at a conference I’m attending where there will be tons and tons of really great stuff happening.”

  7. I am amazed at what you have said in this post Wil.
    I am amazed and dissapointed that people would be so disrespectful and thoughtless. That these people can justify being angry that you are unable to attend these events.
    I will admit that if it were me I would be dissapointed that I was going to miss seeing and/or meeting you. But to go as far as being angry is just plain rude.
    No person has complete control over their health. As an Aussie I will draw a comparison for everyone. This would be like getting Angry at Kylie Minogue for cancelling tour dates just because she has breast cancer.
    People who are this disrespectful of you and your health don’t deserve your time in the first place Wil.
    I wish you a speedy recovery and send you all the get well Mojo I can muster.
    cheers
    Lauren

  8. Wil –
    For all the people that have their knickers in a bunch because you can’t make it, there are countless others that understand (points up at the commente queue — Exhibits A though… 😉 ). Completely.
    The important thing, as many others have said before me, is to get well. As the text of a get well card I’ve recieved says — “It’s not the speed at which you recover. It’s the getting there.”
    Much love, Hun…
    ~Tricia~

  9. Anyone who can’t understand a person’s health problems aren’t worth the time of day. You shouldn’t need to leave that apology.
    Get well.
    – Gail Cooke

  10. “Dude! You woke me up for a snake!”
    I haven’t ever had mono but two friends of mine have (at completely different times). Anyway, to my understanding of how tired it makes you feel, it’s pretty extreme-as in you probably aren’t awake for very long periods of time.
    The fact that you would take the time out to blog and appologize, says a helluva lot about you’re character.
    Forget those selfish anal vapors that actually get mad at you. Obviously they’re not worth your time.

  11. Wil,
    Don’t forget that the Partridge Family, Season One and America’s Next Top Model, Season One are now out on DVD. C’mon get happy and watch the skinny near-nekkid chicks.
    Sending Karma……..

  14. Oh. My. GOD! It never ceases to amaze me that people can be that effin selfish. “I don’t care if your spleen could like, you know, rupture and stuff, you’d better be here to entertain me.”
    I almost want to apologize for them. Almost. But I’m afraid doing so would give me their cooties and I’m all outta cootie spray.
    You have a family to think about, so your health and well-being comes first. Never feel obligated to apologize to some whack job who thinks otherwise.
    Oh, and FYI:
    I had my doubts…I was afraid of JarJar…but Episode 3 was fantastic! Ok, so Hayden what’s-his-name coulda used some more acting classes, but the rest of the film was truly fantastic. I had to come home and watch Episode 4 to see how it all fell into place. Yeah, I’m a geek. Imagine that.

  15. For those who think that Mono is just something like a simple cold, here are the facts about what Mono is, it’s symptoms, and how it is contracted:When Mono Takes You Out of the ActionAfter reading this article, do any of the symptoms mentioned sound familiar?Wil, I hope the rest of your family is well. Just remember, the more you rest, the faster you can recover. Don’t fool yourself into stressing your body when you THINK you are feeling well. Dedicated time for yourself and your family to get past this.Thank you for sharing so much. [I walk up to you and give you a BIG SOLID HEARTFELT HUG] [I whisper to myself “Please don’t kiss me, please don’t kiss me, please…]Just remember the Irish Prayer:May those who love you love you,
    and those who do not love you,
    may God turn their hearts,
    and if He cannot turn their hearts
    may He turn their ankles
    that you may know them by their limping.(Regardless of people’s faith, I like the sentiment.) – Dusty

  16. Don’t let the bastards get you down, Wil. Take care of yourself and feel better soon. Anyone who’s that much of a jerk is beneath consideration, so try to pretend they don’t exist.

  17. Wil, if you read this…
    You might want to try some Collodial Silver. It’s liquid, and is taken sublingually (i.e. under the tongue), or orally (swallowed) (preferably, both *grin*). Collodial Silver is natural, safe, and effective, and has been scientifically proven to kill some viruses. Unfortunately, it can’t be readily promoted due to restrictions by the FDA (it is an over-the-counter and naturopathic/natural item, therefore it is illegal to make a “drug claim” about it). It should be carried at your local GNC, and may be carried in the vitamin/mineral section of your local pharmacy.
    Hey, with mono, anything’s worth a shot, yeah?
    (I would suggest getting some acidopholus to take with it. Acidopholus replaces the “good” bacteria in the digestive tract. Like any antibiotic, etc.. or anything of this nature, collodial silver is unable to differentiate between the “good,” digestive bacteria and the “bad” bacteria. Therefore it’s helpful to replace the digestive micro-organisms.)
    I don’t know if you allow HTML in comments, so an amazon URL for a book about it is here (and I have no doubt this will result in my comment being moderated): http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/1887742018/qid=1117164010/sr=1-1/ref=sr_1_1/002-8611302-1634441?v=glance&s=books
    Hope this helps.
    Whether or not you take my advice, I hope you get better very soon, Wil. mono is no fun.

  18. Reading the article someone posted earlier about Mono, reminded me of what happened when I had Mono, which I think is relevent to this, I caught tonsillitis, and had a fever of 104 my Doctor almost put me in a ICU. Mono is a very very serious illness in rare cases complications can be fatal (no wanting to sound morbid or scare Wil) my point is when you have Mono you have to take very good care of yourself you have to rest as much as possible and you have you try as much as possible to avoid contact with other people, not because you can infect them but because you immune system is very weakened and if you catch something else in addition to the Mono you end up in a very dangerous position.
    To all those that would bitch and complain that Wil isn’t able to do the things not only that you want him doing but that he wishes he could do, go screw yourselves. Try and understand that whilst Mono is generally considered to be a minor virus in comparision to others it can still be very serious and the symptoms don’t feel at all minor when you have it. If you still don’t get it try putting a 70lb backpack on and strap some weights to your arms and legs walk 10 miles and stay awake for 3 days whilst also having the worst hangover of your life, then you will have an idea of what is actually feels like.
    Lots of sympathy coming your way Wil and I hope you feel better soon.
    Ben

  19. I’ve never commented before, but I’ve known the suckiness of mono. I’m from New Orleans, and I’m disappointed that you won’t be coming, but there’s no reason to apologize for something you can’t control. Health is all that matters, really, so settle down and watch some horrible TV all day.
    Plus, it’s not like you can talk, much less give a speech, what with your throat trying to eat itself (I lost half a tonsil while I had mono). Too much info, I know

  20. Oh, dear. I read way back on May 12 where you said you weren’t feeling well after taking care of Nolan. And then there were the posts about still not feeling well. I don’t check up on you for a couple of days and I find out you are really, really sick. You’ve had some trying, stressful times these past couple of months, no wonder your body succumbed.
    Please take care, Wil. Don’t waste any energy on those people who want you to be here or there. You need all your energy for yourself. Please be selfish in this. You have nothing to apologise for.
    Sending you peaceful, healthful thoughts.

  21. You know what Wil you know it’s not your fault that you are sick. Things happen and somethings you cant always do. You are a human being just like everyone else and I understand you made arrangements to be there but, you can’t do everything and be everywhere that you plan to be. Thats just the way life is. You need to just chill out, get well, and try not to be so hard on yourself. We all know you will be back in action when you get better.

  22. Please feel better Wil and don’t worry about people who get angry over something you have no control over. It seems to me they are being small.

  23. Forget what those people are saying. They have no idea. My ex had mono when we first started dating and I remember how bad it was for him. I had to drive him everywhere, whenever he was up to actually leaving the room. It was awful. I hope you feel better soon, but till then, don’t push it! Mono is the extreme form of exhaustion and, purely in my own self-interest, I’d rather have you out for two months than six!

  24. I haven’t commented in a long time but I felt really compelled to do so for this entry. I am truly disgusted how some people can be so self-centered. The man is fricken sick, give him a break. I hope that all those people that wrote and were angry with you, someday feel a little of what your going through, just so they will understand. If anyone needs to apologize I think it is those that were self-centered in there needs over yours that need to aplogize to YOU!

  25. Is it wrong that I am a little turned on right now? I’m new to the site. There I was minding my own business when I stumble upon an article of the top 5 celebrity web bloggers on the net and low and behold my childhood crush (still looking hot might I add) is number 1″. First I asked myself, “What the hell would I do or say once entering your sight? And then I said to myself, “Do what you do best girl talk,talk, talk. Great website Wil. I see that you have some cool fans here to and also I have an annoying boss who thinks that everyday I am willing and able to work despite any illnesses that I might have. Just brush it off everything will be ok. 🙂

  26. Seriously, Wil fuck those people that are giving you grief. Anyone that is trying to guilt you over taking care of your own health first isn’t worth your time. Anyone who truly cared about meeting your or even that you kept your commitments would understand (and have more than likely been in the exact same situation themselves) that sometimes you just can not do anything else but try and get better.
    Get better man. Don’t worry about anything else. The same people that are angry will be wanting yout to come to the same conference this time next year.

  27. Hey Wil,
    Dont worry about thouse idiots. If they cant undersatnd that u are ill. then screw them !that is so absolutely absurd of them to get upset over something you cant control .. I had mono back in Dec 04 for 6 weeks.. the doc said if you dont take care of your shelf it will last longer then 6 weeks and u will get even more ill with other things. just take care of your shelf and have ann make you soup and lots of drinks and sleep,sleep, and sleep..

  28. One of my favorite exchanges from “Seinfeld” was this one:
    Elaine: I will never understand people.
    Jerry: They’re the worst!
    It was so funny because at the time Jerry had no idea what Elaine was talking about, he just ran with it. Anyway, my husband and I quote this exchange at appropriate times, which, unfortunately, is quite often. Sadly, this is one of those times. Naturally, someone looking forward to seeing you/hearing you speak will be disappointed to miss out. Anything beyond that is just their problem. Just get well, Wil.

  29. Whoever would be angry at the fact that somebody was sick and couldn’t show up for their little gathering is just plain selfish.
    Tell me who they are and I’ll take care of em’for ya’ Wil 😉

  30. Jeepers.
    How is it that a segment of the tech world can be so UNEDUCATED??? Or should I say, ‘Dear Supposedly Educated Morons, please learn how to spend more time with actual people than your computers!’ Manners 101 and Etiquette 101 are first…
    Getting mono as an adult (or any childhood illness) CAN BE A LOT MORE SERIOUS. REALLY SERIOUS. And take longer to recover from than when young. I said in a comment previously that I got Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and while it’s not known what causes it I can say there was a period in my life where I ignored signals (I was caregiving) and got really run down and have never come back. That happened when I was 32 and I’m 46 now.
    So PLEASE don’t ignore this current signal Wil, and Anne, make sure you have someone to watch over you too as you caregive! Don’t wind up like me! It’s like having mono permanently!
    And Wil, if you’re reading this, WHY??? YOU SHOULD BE IN BED!!!

  31. Plainly put, anyone who doesn’t accept that you are in serious need of rest and healing can go scratch.
    They are not friends of yours or fans of yours for that matter.

  32. I’m so sorry you’re not well. As for the people who are pissed…scroom!
    I got what my doctor called “flu-like illness” in mid-April. She said there’s a lot of it going around and that it hangs on and on and on. I thought I was better and went back to work too soon. The relapse really kicked my butt. I’m still coughing and have no energy. STAY…IN…BED!

  33. Will,
    Glad to hear the meds are working.
    Apologies…are mine. I didn’t mean to come across angry;just caught off gaurd.
    You didn’t let me or anybody down. Stuff happens
    Get well,Be well
    Sorry MetalHealth

  34. …. PS I picked up Stand By Me the other day its still a great film, even though i wear the eyes of an older man.
    Get well,be well

  35. Ugh… feel better soon. I hope for your sake it’s not tonsillitis. I had it last year and had to get them removed >
    And I hope it’s not the Jersey plague. We got hit here in January and I have friends in Florida who were complaining about it last week.

  36. Bummed? Okay. Saddened? Understandable. But angry? It would seem to me that the people that actually care to see you would have the foresight to worry about your health instead of being petty about you being unable to make an engagement.
    I’m so sorry you’re sick. Feel better and don’t let anyone make you feel bad for something that’s beyond your control.

  37. Hey Wil, don’t let the assholes get you down. Just take care of yourself and get better as soon as you can. Mono is some nasty stuff and I just hate sinus infections! Take care and ignore the morons.
    Hugs!
    Tracey

  38. Feel better, and be sure to take care, Wil.
    When I was a wee young’n (far too many years ago), I didn’t have mono, but some sort of viral thing–and it took three months out of my senior year in high school. Not fun.
    At least you know now that you really did have 81 cubic feet of green mucous in your head for a reason.
    Warning: that last line should not have been read by the squeamish.
    Cheers!

  39. Wil,
    I’m so sorry that people are acting like a complete ASS to you. Everyone who’s anyone knows what mono is and what it does to you. Forget those idiots and focus on getting well so we can all feel better. Why anyone would think your up to going to New Orleans in your condition is beyond me! All the people that do care (me as #1)understand what your going through, and I’m sure everyone would agree with me when I say to hell with all you selfish people!! Get well soon Wil!:)

  42. I don’t know what to say. Some people can be so heartless. Don’t worry about the people angry about you not being able to attend. Rule of thumb in this situation is you need to think about you. Your family needs you and if you don’t take care of yourself you’ll get worse.
    Just rest, read watch the original Star Wars Trilogy and chill. Ones you’re better you’ll be able to get back to work, so for now enjoy the bedrest. As much as you can, anyway.
    Please feel better soon, Mr Wheaton.

  43. To the idiots: if you were all stuffed up with cold and yuck, feeling like crap and having a bad sicky day, would you travel all the way to New Orleans? I don’t think so!

  44. Wil,
    Words cannot begin to describe the amount of compassion I feel for you right now. I wish I could stretch my arms through the internet cable and give you such a great big hug. Over the past few months, I have admired you infinitley. You are such an inspiration in so many ways. It really saddens me to hear that some people don’t respect you in the way that they should and so, why I decided to comment.
    You see, the thing is… I read your website everyday – infact, more than everyday! I check it all the time in the hope that you’ve written something new since I last looked. It’s become an obsession, Wil. You’re an obsession! But I don’t like to comment. You know why? Because I feel so inferior. Here’s you with your brilliant way with words and I could never hope to be so clever with my writing and I don’t want to embarass myself and risk sounding like the highschool fan girl that I am.
    But you taught me something Wil. You taught me not to care what other people think. We all know what people thought of Wesley – and that must have been the hardest thing to deal with – but you overcame it. You rose above everyone – and it’s what you’ve got to do now.
    Last weekend I brought two Star Trek DVDs. Each DVD had 3 episodes on, and one of these episodes was “Justice.” My brother came and watched it with me and we both found it highly hilarious. My brother kept saying, the WHOLE way through… “I want to see more of Wesley! I don’t want to see the boring old people. Where’s Wesley?”
    At the end, I asked him what he thought. “There should have been more of Wesley in it.” he said. And I agreed.
    You’ll always come out ontop Wil. Always. I wish you the very best of luck in getting better, take it easy, and stop worrying about those idiots who aren’t as brilliant as you are.
    All my love to you, Anne, Ryan and Nolan,
    Holly x

  45. Wil,
    I’m so sorry you are feeling so bad. I wish I could make you better. I am also sorry that people are being unkind. I think it’s very classy of you to apologize for something beyond your control. If anyone gets too out of hand, just let us know and we’ll round up the posse. Take care!

  47. Holly: I don’t think you have anything to feel inferior about. Your writing is fine. As you write more, you’ll get better. Don’t ever quit doing something you love just because you don’t think you’re good enough.

  48. Don’t worry about other people!!! Take care of yourself – that is what is important. If others are upset then they have their own problems to worry about since they don’t have any care for your wellbeing!!!
    I wish you the best – get well Now! no need to wait (if it was only that easy :-D)

  49. Wil:
    I SECOND the Colloidal Silver suggestion. It’s great stuff and totally safe!!!
    Also, and this should be obvious, since it is what our moms taught us when we were kids… DRINK CLEAR LIQUIDS (and in LA, that probably means BOTTLED non-sparkling water, not tap) UNTIL YOU ARE PEEING WAY MORE THAN YOU WANT TO BE. FLUSH THE SYSTEM.
    Oh, and when you are feeling much, much, much better, post the names of anybody who was ANGRY at you for not attending any events because you were sick. We’ll excuse the ones who were DISAPPOINTED (that’s just human) but the ANGRY ones should be “outted” as self-centered, non-thinking idiots. If I could, I would have them have to wear signs to that effect wherever they went so we could avoid them.
    GET WELL!!! Look out for yourself and family and don’t worry, but SOMEHOW, the world will go on with less Wil for a few months.
    If you’ve got the energy, read WORSE THAN WATERGATE.
    Take care,
    Charlie L
    Portland, OR

  50. Everyone acts self-centeredly at some time or another. Some people more often than others. I hope you won’t let it bother you too much. Getting all worked up isn’t going to help you get better any quicker.
    Remember that they are angry because they very much wanted to see you. Let their anger pass you by and help them understand your situation. Don’t absorb the anger or reflect it back.
    I really do hope you feel better soon.

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