On my Tumblr thingy, someone asked:
I know it’s been a bit since you were in school, but as someone who is about to go to university, do you have any tips?
I wanted to share my reply:
It is such a huge privilege when someone your age asks an Old like me for advice. When I was young, I thought dudes in their 50s were lame and had nothing to offer. Now that I’m one of those dudes, I understand what a gift it is when you ask me to share my experience. I hope this helps you a little bit.
Make time to meet your professors during their office hours.
You don’t have to go have a deep conversation, just introduce yourself, tell them which class you are in, and thank them for their time.
You’re doing this because there will be a time in your future when you need an extra day for something, or a little extra help or attention, or something like that. When you go to talk to your professor about that, it won’t be the first time you’ve met them, and that will make a difference.
That’s on an academic level. On a personal level, you’re going to spend a LOT of the next few years figuring out who you are, what your values are, and how you want to live your life. Most of us try to be someone profoundly different from who we are, in our first year or two, because we’re on our own and trying out what it feels like to be an adult. The thing I want you to just remember while you do that is: you know who your are in your heart, and if you try to not be that person, you will draw people to you who don’t like *you* as much as they like who you are pretending to be.
It’s a long way of saying “be true to yourself. Know what your values are and live them consistently, so you find other people who share them.”
Finally, the advice I give everyone who asks me questions like yours:
Choose to be kind.
Choose to be honest.
Choose to be honorable.
Choose to do your best and understand that your best will vary from day to day. Don’t judge yourself when your best on Monday is not the same as it was last Thursday. Just do your best, consistently.
You’re at the beginning of a really great time in your life. I hope you get everything you want out of it, enjoy learning, and make life long friends.