Well, I’ve started and erased 3 different entries this morning, so this is the last try to not be grouchy and lame.
The thing is, I’m just having a really shitty day. I presented material at ACME last night, and it SUCKED. I just haven’t been able to find my funny for months, and tangible reminders of that, like absoultely BOMBING on stage last night, really sting.
It’s okay, though. It will pass. It has to pass.
Right?
Well, that’s what I keep telling myself anyway.
It’s been so hard for me to be funny recently…I won’t go into it, but my life has been under siege for the last 2 years, and it’s just getting worse and worse, with no sign of improvement.
Between that and this “hyper-nostalgia” that I spoke of over the weekend, I just can’t be funny.
It also doesn’t help that I keep seeing the phrase “Has been” and “washed up” immediately preceeding my name all over the place.
Boy, it’s a great fucking feeling to know that people are calling me washed up at 29.
Oh, and I hear that they’ve cut me out of the Star Trek movie. Perfect.
Incidentally, I’m totally not fishing for encouragement. I’m just saying…well…it hurts. It shouldn’t, but it does. That’s all.
Hm. Failed at the “Try to not be grouchy and lame” thing.
Damn.
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If you ever feel like you’ve lost your funny, just remember you’re one of that squirrel’s nuts. That should be a gold mine of material right there.
I mean, knocking heads with Drew all day, up and down the tree? I’m lmao already.
–NT
Dude, the way you love your wife and kids, they way you get excited about good auditions, they way you get bummed about crappy shows, this entire web site… it reminds us little people that even celebrities are people too. what you have created here is goddamn INSPIRATIONAL!
Don’t believe that ‘washed up’ rubbish, more and more people are reading this site everyday. Why? because people like you and identify with you! Its cool to be down sometimes, but remember you have people all over this world who even though they have never met you, they read every day and consider you a friend, and they are in your corner, so when you stand back up, come out swinging and remember we are behind you.
All this will pass. Next week, next month, next year you will think back on what has happened and wonder why you were so upset.
Your funny will return. Maybe it just needed a short vacation.
OK, here’s what you do… Take a deep breathe and
remember the 7 things that you were grateful for. Keep those in mind and close to your heart. Those are the things that really count.
Sending an extra big dose of mojo.
All this will pass. Next week, next month, next year you will think back on what has happened and wonder why you were so upset.
Your funny will return. Maybe it just needed a short vacation.
OK, here’s what you do… Take a deep breathe and
remember the 7 things that you were grateful for. Keep those in mind and close to your heart. Those are the things that really count.
Sending an extra big dose of mojo.
THEY CUT YOU OUT OF THE MOVIE?!?!? What the HELL??
Chin up, Wil. If we didn’t have downs, we’d never have ups.
heck, the only reason i was going to go to the new ST movie is cause you were in it..
still have not seen the last one yet.
Sorry about the double post.
I guess that’s what happens when I lose my mojo!
Since everyone else is trying to lift your spirits Wil, Let me just say… “Sucks to be you”
Theres always the “Where are they now” segments on E! They can stick you right between Mark Hammell and Gary Coleman.
They cut you out of the Star Trek movie? Well, there goes my entire reason to see that movie.
And about the has been thing…NO NO, don’t say that ok? You are not a has been! Even though it’s REALLY hard to find any movies with you in my country I’ve seen them anyways, and actually my whole class (not a lie) went to see one of the movies you were in!! So you’re NOT a has been.
Things will be better, even though it looks very impossible… My life was a living hell 6 months ago and it has been like that for years, and now it’s better. I didn’t believe that I would feel better, but now I do!! And I know you will.
And your talent, WOW. You are so amazing… I mean, you are just very talented! And I still think YOU are amazing. I mean, you’re an actor, you have family, friends, and still you have this website, and you update it very often! And you’re funny like hell! Again: I believe in you!!!
Bye, Helene
I hear you Wil. It seems like I have been spinning my wheels for awhile for the last 2 years or so. Some days it just seems like I just don’t know WTF I’m doing. I do know that life cyclical and I’m waiting for the top dog position again. Until that day, here’s my mojo coming your way.
Cheers! Mate
STOP IT! JUST STOP IT! Don’t make me come over and kick your ass!
You have an amazing wife, a wonderful family and a new show that’s about to launch this week.
So what if you never make a fucking movie in your entire life, you actually did it! And don’t forget: you are making a living doing what you want to do – you are creating for a living. Do you now how rare that is? Do you know how many people are forced to work miserable jobs just to make ends meet?
Sure, you’re having a rough time now. Boo Hoo. Do what most of us girls do: eat some chocolate, call a friend, have a bitch session and then GET OVER IT AND GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE.
And I say this all with love…
I, too, was looking forward to the Star Trek film mostly becaus Wes was gonna be back. That sucks. Now,just look at all the great messages preceeding this one – all that mojo and love just has to reach you at some point. You have a great family who love you and no stupid reviewer or journalist can take that away from you, ever. You are definitely not a “has been” to anyone who visits you here at WWDN. We all have our moments when we look at how many years have passed and wonder what we did with the time. It sounds clich
Despite how much I disagree with you, nothing I say’s going to change how you feel. You’re just in a funk. It happens.
It’s kind of like sex. You’re thinking about it too much – whenever that happens, performance suffers (ahem, at least not mine.. never has, never will.. mind you, my wife reads these as well, so her comments may differ – keep in mind though that she’s been ill with the flu, and her words can’t be taken at face value right now).
Take a break. Do something different this weekend. Relax.
Worst case scenario – you become really good at being grouchy and lame… but hey – at least you’d be good at it, and nobody can take that away from you….
You’re young, you’re healthy, and you have a wife that loves you, you have kids that like to skateboard with you. You’re already way ahead of the game.
I know a little bit about the 29 thing–I’ll be turning 30 next year. I’m contemplating working in the computer game industry, and expect that 90% of the professionals will be younger than me. Everyone is going to have that sort of thing happen to them sooner or later. You’re not an underwear model or professional athelete–there’s no reason that you can’t be kicking ass on stage until you drop dead at age 97.
You will survive, and very likely flourish. For the record, I aways found Wesley to be an inspiration–surrounded by goobers who just didn’t get him, and he survived.
Cry me a river. You have a house, a hot wife, kids, and various other good things. Yeah your life sucks right now but it can get a whole lot worse in a split second.
All you need to say to yourself right now is ‘Look where i am now and look where Corey Feldman is’ i’m sure you will feel better after that.
They cut you out? Gee, there goes my reason to watch the movie.
Wil –
Some advice…Fuck Funny! Funny’s the place performers start (ala SNL, Bosom Buddies, etc), not where you wanna end up – what on some shitty sitcom?
I say pull a fuckin Travolta and do somethin hardcore! Do a kill-krazy indie flick, maybe show your rod (Harvey Keitel style) hehe, anyways you get the point!
I’m pretty sure you could at least manage to get arrested,… that would getcha on ET, Access Hollywood, and Extra Extra [haha]. Announce you have a psycho stalker. Here’s an idea: stage a minor accident that you can save some kid from (ala Harrison Ford, Mark Harmon, etc).
Be Strong Young Soldier! Your Gang of Fans has got your Back Bro! Oh Yeah! Whatever you do, don’t pulla Hugh Grant!
Your “funny” to me, Wil. That has to count for something. Currently producers are looking for a person to host Ultimate Dodgeball (13 ep). Want to give it a try?
I already sent you a hug and some mojo in the thread in the soapbox, but I just wanted to elaborate.
You are anything but a “has been”. You have a following (at least on the website) of 2000 strong, and so many more that just haven’t found their way here yet.
We all have rough patches, and I’m sorry that you seem to be stuck in a rather large one. I’m sorry to hear about the movie… that’s just crap on their part. Remember, we all love you and support you. *hugs*
Hey Wil
New here and already addicted to this site.
No funny?
Who was the perfumed ponce in the dress I saw a picture of the other day?
Your life may suck now, but you still have the horniest eyes…oops did I say that?
Mojo your way….
Dude, you sound like my younger brother. He is a musition with AMAZING talent coming out of his ears. I mean, the kid has perfect pitch, can duplicate a Red Hot Chilly Peppers bass line after hearing it once and can span a thirteenth on the piano. He has all of this, yet I always hear how much he sucks and needs to practice more, or how he is not as good as this guy or that guy. The problem is that he just has bad luck. Every musical opportunity he gets, winds up turning out to be nothing. Like the last band got picked up by Sony, but the guitar player wound up being a drug addict and the deal fell through. Stuff like that. The last thing that he did was to play bass on my lame CD that I just put out, but no one will probably hear it. But recently, I took him out with me and we did a few acoustic shows, and people were swarming him after the show and telling him how great he is. On the way home, he looked at me, smiled and said, “I guess I don’t suck, right bro?” He just needed to find his mojo. And to see that people care.
You have tellent coming out of your ears as well. Sit back, breath in and look at what you have and where you want to be. It’s not that far away. People care.
It’s your blog, you can bitch and whine if you want to.
Hey, Wil. You crack me up each week. Last Friday night I was viewing the FARK site with those ADOBE PS photo mark-ups of you and that guy – made me nearly puke I was laughing so hard and now my daughter thinks I’m even more strange than ever. Ya see, Wil – I owe that to you and your funny – which is not lost, just pretty stressed most likely. Happens. To us all, brother!
Serisouly – I am soooo sorry about the ST movie cutting you – that’s just wrong on so many levels. But I don’t claim to know anything beyond that. T’was the key reason for me wanting to see the movie – even though I’ll still go and see it. But I have missed Mr. Crusher for a long time now and wanted to see his character resolved/revived and see YOU on the screen again. Better things in store for you to be for sure!
by the by: This is so not encouragement – just the obvious.
Be good.
-sam
Those motherfarkers better not cut you out of the new movie, because I will be *pissed*. If they do cut you out, it means that they have absolutely no idea how devoted a posse you’ve got. No matter how much the movie may kick ass, if you’re not in it, EVERYONE will be saying “Hey, that was a good movie, but can you imagine if those jackasses hadn’t cut Wil? That would have ROCKED.”
Keep us posted on these events so that we can practice cursing Rick Berman’s name again, just in case, and know that your devoted readers think you’re funny, smart and definitely not a has-been.
Dammit, now I want to go kick somebody’s ass on your behalf, and I’ve really been trying to cut down on that violence thing, lately… 😉
Wil, hun, sit on Auntie Foxy’s lap, cos she has something very important to say to you.
You’re sooooooooooo NOT washed-up. If all else fails, get the duster out and polish the…like…6 MILLION Bloggie awards you won and think, “Damn, I got a fabulous family and great friends in WWDN” and then when you’ve done that, pick up the phone, call the ST: X people and blow the BIGGEST raspberry down the line to them, cos trust me, my friend, you really dont need them.
Here comes a @-}–}——- from across the pond and my mojo to you is right behind it.
Awwww, poor Wil 🙁
/me bakes Wil some cookies
If the opinion of some silly little fangirl is any consolation, you’ve totally got TEH FUNNY, certainly more than almost anyone else I know or know of. You’re an extremely cool person too! Go look at your site stats. See how many people read this? And they all think you’re funny and interesting and very cool and the kind of person they’d like to buy a drink for.
So yeah, go give your wife a hug and remember that she loves you unconditionally. At least that’s what always makes me feel better. But, um, I mean, not with your wife, with my . . . oh never mind, I’ll shut up now.
Wil, you are not a has been. I know how many times it’s already been said here, but if you were a loser, we wouldn’t love you so much. People don’t know what they’re talking about.
Don’t give up. I know you’ve got it in you to be great at whatever you want to do. Believe.
Jasmine
I haven’t read all of the comments (so I may just be rehashing), and I’ve never posted before, but I just wanted to tell you, Wil, that you’re the bee’s knees. Not only are you a wonderful actor, but you’re a great stepfather and a fabulous husband–if your blog is any indication, and I think it is. There are so many people who would kill for just one of the many successes in your life (and I’m betting that the people who call you a has-been are never-been’s themselves who are too blinded by celebrity to understand the ups and downs of a real-life entertainer). What makes so many of the WWDN peeps so loyal to you is your never-say-die attitude–even when you can’t find your funny and it seems like all the doors are closed. You were one of my favorites when I was 13 (Oh, that Wil Wheaton – isn’t he a dreamboat!), but I think I’m an even bigger fan now–and I know I’m not the only one. Sounds like sugared cheese, but it’s true.
See, dude…The Onion (www.theonion.com) just proved my point:
Former Big Celebrity Finds New Career As Pathetic Former Celebrity
HOLLYWOOD, CA
Dude,
Is THIS your funny?
I just found it under the sofa.
Wait.
Hold up.
It’s my retainer.
Nevermind.
Wil,
If you’d like I can flash you my boobies if it’ll cheer you up.. they’re not much but I hope they help…
Man. I think i can relate to you about losing your funny… My friend and I always talk on AIM, almost every day… We do funny things, send funny parodies of stuff, etc… And I have not felt funny lately.. I guess that’s not super encouraging, but just know that thoughts are with you. I hope that you feel better, find your funny, and have a better non-shitty day. I think that we all know you’re not washed up… I thought your short film was teriffic, you did a great job in it. And you make a lot of people laugh a lot in the soap box. 🙂 Especially in BAC. hehehe. Just know thoughts are with you, and if you ever need anything i think there’s about 2000 of us who would say a prayer, or just a nice word. Blessings.
-Sput
No Funny? Need I remind you of the kick ass “april fool’s joke”. That was awesome. Life sometimes throws a nasty curveball here and there. And as for the Star Trek movie , hopefully they will get their heads out of their asses and at least put the cut scenes on DVD.
I suggest
* take one rock cd
* insert into stereo
* turn knob to 10 (or 11 for a spinal tap speaker)
* enjoy 🙂
Hang in there.
–tinystickfigure
Read John’s comment about Hollywood Squares again–you’ll thank yourself for it. 🙂 He’s got some funny to spare, that one.
And you all know, of course, that funny multiplies. Running a bit low? Recharge off of someone else–you’ll be back up in no time.
Personally, regarding trek–I’ll wait ’till it sound more official. It’s a bummer if true, but mostly because it was an easy way to hang with friends. A cameo in the next trek film isn’t going to jump-start the career by itself.
Besides, I imagine there’s plenty of ways to hang with old friends that an inventive soul can come up with.
Personally? I wanna see Wil in one of these comic book remakes that are starting to pop up all over. Preferably a good one. I remember someone mentioning the Watchmen–now _that_ would make a cool movie. Maybe the green lantern?
Anyway, feel bad if it makes you feel better. 🙂 It’s not gonna last forever, though. You’re a good actor, with good friends, family, and a good team promoting you–*and you know that*.
-Rich
Dude, I am too busy to read the other missives of advice…so I apologize if I repeat what someone else may have offered.
Don’t worry about not being funny, you’ll just get yourself into a frenzy and everybody hates someone who is REALLY TRYING to be funny. Once you relax it will come back.. I mean lets face it funny is something that comes from being relaxed enough to see the humour in just about anything. I have gone through the same thing ( IMHO I am normally a hilarious guy :)) it came back…. I hope those people are laughing with me and not at me…. oh man what have I been doing… what if they are laughing at my pathetic attempts at humour….ah well fark ’em, at least I think I’m funny and for that matter I think most us who read this think your a pretty funny guy most of the time too. Has been has shpeen… you are the actor man, you are the doer, they are just a bunch of critics and hangerson… don’t listen too them… their wieners.
They cut you out?! Whoever ‘they’ is/are, they obviously don’t know what they’re doing. Chin up, you’re definately not a has-been. 🙂
Wow I can totally relate. I think you’re blog is so important for that very reason. That people like me (you were my first celebrity crush when I was 4 and I will always view you as the biggest star no matter what) can get a glimpse into your real life and see it’s not all daisies. I am also a very funny upbeat person most days who sees my life as a blessing. But other days it gets to me that my family isn’t in my life, that people around town think I am a failure, that I still don’t know what I am doing with my life and I don’t have a significant other. These things do seep to the surface and even the strongest of people succomb to feelings of inadaquacy. Yet I know that you and I can both see past that and get to what is really important. Being successful in our own eyes and working to be happy for ourselves. When you tell your sons to do their best…are you patronizing them or do you seriously mean it? Cuz then you have to grant yourself the same leeway (my spelling is atrocious today). But whatever you do, don’t feel guilty about being grouchy and lame for one post. ACCEPT. That’s the way to have tolerance for yourself. Just know that when you come out of it the people who love you will not judge you and will still be there for you no matter what.
Oscar Wilde said something like: “There is much to be said in favor of modern journalism; by giving us the opinions of the uneducated, it keeps us in touch with the ignorance of the community.”
He also said something like: “The only thing worse than people talking badly about you is when they don’t talk about you at all.”
First things first, who gives a damn what super critical critics are saying about you! Washed up? Has been? Come on, please. To us, your ever loving loyal, listening fans and public never, for once minute, think about you that way.
Secondly, we all have our grouchy days. We wouldn’t be human if we didn’t. Just think about it though, you can moan all you want to us and I won’t complain…because we don’t care. We just like listening to what you have to say everyday.
So cheer up, we’ll always love you.
A rich man’s joke is always funny
Life does not cease to be funny when people die any more than it ceases to be serious when people laugh
Everything is funny as long as it is happening to somebody else
Your site is under the funny heading in my favorites. Right there with sites that I know you think are funny like X-E and FARK. Hopefully that’s an ego boost!
Man, you were the only reason I was planning on watching the movie. I didn’t even LIKE Wesley :).
So now I prolly wont see it till it’s out on DVD, and even then… well, it took me two tries to watch Insurrection all the way through.
And look on the bright side: it’s called NEMESIS for christ’s sake! Imagine the blot _that_ would have made on your career!
Man, your almost 30, have no prospects for the future, have a hugh mortgage, and nobody loves you. I suggest you get some weed, pizza and a new porn video(a new porn vedio always makes me feel young agian).
This is satire. Do not Flam me.
But seriously, The best way to get over being depressed is to get out of the house and do something, almost anything. Maybe you sould orgainize a WilWheaton party.
Wil, when I was ten, I would have given an arm, a leg, and my eyeteeth to have been on the Enterprise! I mean, to have *worked* with Patrick Stewart! To have been able to tread the stars! (Ok, on plywood and plastic sets, but still).
I’m an almost-laid-off writer (less than one month to go!) Like your profession, mine’s cold, hard, unforgiving, and will strangle you if you look the other way for just a moment. Aren’t the arts a blast?
Every day – every day I wake up, wondering if this is it, whether I’ve reached the pinnacle, and if for the rest of my life I’ll be working at my second job as a bookseller. Especially when I’m blocked, or I’m missing my flair for words. That happens.
It could be worse. You could be, as someone said before, on “Hollywood Squares.”
But you’re making your living creating. And writing. Right now. Wow.
Will, I’m so jealous of you! 😉
Man I cant believe those idiots Cut you!! MAN that is a low blow!
What is the difference between the Rolling Stones and an irish sheep farmer?
The Rolling Stones had a song that said, “Hey you get off of my cloud” and an irish sheep farmer says, “Hey McLeod get off of my ewe”!
The thing of it all is this – whom do you trust with your happiness? Giving anyone outside yourself that level of responsibility for your short-term and long-term mental image is dangerous, especially people who have, as their paid profession, the obligation to speak down about some, and praise others. Besides, small minds feel better if they can mock those they don’t understand.
You’re a good person, you’re funny as hell, you’re bright, and you are leading a very lucky life. If you have to look outside yourself for balance, look to your kids, and to your wife. They think you’re great. Believe them.
-Danny
Geez,
Grouch-meister.
Life is a rollercoaster:
UPS and DOWNS
“Take Tylenol for pain, Midol for cramps”
– David Spade, Tommy Boy